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Opting in? Opting out? Have a plan!

Perhaps you saw the recent segment on the Today Show where host Matt Lauer interviewed Lisa Belkin, author of “The Opt-Out Revolution,” and several women who, ten years ago, did just that.  These women chose to put their careers on hold to raise their children and they are now attempting to re-enter the workforce.  While none of these mothers regrets her decision to leave her job – and all three women interviewed attest to just how much work it is be a parent! – they encourage women who might be considering making the choice to stay home now to have a plan.

So whether you’re in their shoes and attempting to “opt back in” or you’re a young woman who has some tough choices ahead of her, I would encourage you to think about adding a few things to your plan.

  1. Keep up with your workplace connections. You will need them when you go back , and you’ll want the adult conversation when you’re home alone with children!
  2. Continue to participate in professional associations where you have high profile volunteer responsibilities and the opportunity to keep up with your industry and industry insiders.
  3. Do some kind of paid part-time work.
  4. Keep an accomplishment log of your successes, skill development, and activities.  You are very likely a potentially better employee now than you were then, as you have evolved and matured.
  5. Consistently keep your resume updated.  You might forget these accomplishments when you are interested in going back.

Never totally opt-out.  This is important not only for your future in your career, but also for your sanity, and for the example you will set for your children.

©Copyright 2013.  Kay Fittes.  All Rights Reserved.

The Woman’s High-Heeled Manifesto

Women to the Right of You, Women to the Left of You:
The Value of Single Gender Classrooms, Labs, Trainings

As more young women are encouraged to pursue education and careers in the STEM fields: science, technology, engineering and math, yet another area for the raging controversy re: single gender environments emerge.  Do we do a service or disservice to females putting them in a single gender atmosphere?  Some would propose that without the opportunity to learn “real world” gender behavior we do females a disservice.

When the AAUW first published Short Changing Girls, Short Changing America there was no question that girls were treated differently in the classroom than boys.  They were often ignored, not challenged to provide in-depth answers, and generally held to lower expectations.  The controversy rears its head again in STEM collegiate laboratories across the country, school districts studying the value of single gender classrooms and trainers, like me, who offer female only workshops.  Read the article by Martha Irvine about Dr. Elizabeth Harbron’s lab at the University of William and Mary.  This lab is a perfect example of the value of single gender environments.  Though she didn’t set out to create a “female only” lab, that is what emerged and what led many female students to flourish.

As women, we ask ourselves why we often reach our highest potential in single sex classrooms, labs, or training environments.  It’s an opportunity to practice, practice, and practice.  Practice identifying our opinions, beliefs, and perspectives free from testosterone fueled bravado.  If you have never been asked your opinion, never been asked to “prove your case”, or stand your ground then chances are your confidence level is shaky.  Add a pinch of shaky plus a big cup of bluster and what do you get?  You create an atmosphere much like the asinine chaos of Sports Center.  If you have ever watched the “desk wars” on Saturday morning prior to or during a collegiate football game then you know what I’m talking about.  Who can interrupt the loudest, most frequently, and with greatest arrogance?  Is it any wonder that many women would prefer to test their confidence and skills in an environment that at least is civil?

On those occasions that my seminars have both female and male participants, this “step up and speak out” issue arises even for mature professionals.  Time after time, I have observed competent, bright, and articulate women defer to the men in the room.  If grown women will continue to yield to men in professional training workshops, then it should be no surprise you that school girls and college women struggle.  Given the opportunity, find every opportunity to create environments where women can test their wings without male wing clippers on the loose.  Every corporation that has Women’s Initiatives should be applauded.

©Copyright 2011.  Kay Fittes.  All Rights Reserved.