{"id":79,"date":"2014-11-16T20:00:51","date_gmt":"2014-11-17T01:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/?p=79"},"modified":"2018-04-17T15:24:17","modified_gmt":"2018-04-17T19:24:17","slug":"get-conflict-under-control","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/?p=79","title":{"rendered":"Get Conflict Under Control"},"content":{"rendered":"

Did\u00a0you miss the High-Heeled Success\u00ae <\/sup>workshop, \u201cKick Conflict to the Curb\u201d on November 1, 2014?\u00a0 It was a power\u2014packed, career-changing day for all the participants.<\/p>\n

Here are just a few of the useful strategies you missed on coping with criticism:<\/p>\n

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  1. Weigh It!<\/strong>\u00a0 How you respond should be based on the critic\u2019s motivation.\u00a0 Was the intent to assist your growth, or was the critic \u201cout to get you,\u201d or worse yet boost their own lagging ego?<\/li>\n
  2. Delve Into It!<\/strong>\u00a0 If they really had your best interest at heart, look for\u00a0the kernel of truth and internalize it\/act on it.<\/li>\n
  3. Ditch It!<\/strong>\u00a0 If you determine the intent was malicious, or just to boost the critic\u2019s ego, ignore it and refuse to let it into your psyche.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Putting these three tips to use requires the discipline skills of listening\u00a0objectively, being open to growth, and focusing on the positive or what\u2019s\u00a0important.<\/p>\n

    The ability to openly receive feedback begins with being a good listener.\u00a0 Do you\u00a0truly listen to advice, opinions and guidance from a co-worker\/manager?\u00a0 Spend\u00a0some time really thing about that.\u00a0 As the famed author Steven Covey once\u00a0said, \u201cMost people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.\u201d\u00a0 Could this be you?\u00a0 If so, remind yourself during a potential conflict to stop and truly listen.\u00a0 Listening is a challenge for many people in our age of lightning fast news and social media.<\/p>\n

    Finally, look for that silver lining in any interaction.\u00a0 Whether the words you receive from a co-worker are true feedback or criticism, they must be processed with a filter.\u00a0 If after hearing someone\u2019s input, you determine it to be useful\u00a0feedback, look at is as an opportunity to refine your actions or work process.\u00a0\u00a0If the intent was malicious, know that there are powerful prevention and coping\u00a0skills to cope with saboteurs (some of my future events will reveal them.)<\/p>\n

    Actionable tips and techniques like the one\u2019s I\u2019ve shared here are takeaways from all my events.\u00a0 If you didn\u2019t make Kick Conflict to the Curb on November 1st, don\u2019t\u00a0miss out again!<\/p>\n

    The next High-Heeled Success\u00ae public workshop is on January 24, 2015.\u00a0 Join us for \u201cA Woman\u2019s Guide to Powerful Presentations.\u201d\u00a0 One of the fastest career advancement catalysts is the ability to be a powerful presenter, and to have the ability to talk so people will listen, and more importantly:\u00a0 powerful\u00a0presenting is\u00a0an essential skill for women in corporate America, female entrepreneurs and\u00a0women in the non-profit arena.\u00a0 Everyone can benefit from this exciting workshop.\u00a0 Here is one\u00a0short testimonial from a woman who previously attended my event in June this year:<\/p>\n

    \u201cThe program was very informative, fun and useful.\u00a0 I\u00a0came away with a great outline for an effective presentation for my direct sales business,\u201d Amy Elberfeld.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

    If the thought of speaking in front of a group makes you weak in the knees, look beyond the event and concentrate on the positive outcomes of a powerful presentation instead.\u00a0 Being a powerful presenter, will enhance your visibility with key individuals.\u00a0 In some cases this could impact the course of your career by becoming more memorable to those who can directly influence its direction.\u00a0 Enhanced presentation skills will open doors which were previously closed, so much so, you\u2019ll be surprised to find yourself walking through them!<\/p>\n

    It is empowering to take control of your career direction versus being driven down an uncertain course because of fear.\u00a0 Take charge of your career path and register today for \u201cA Woman\u2019s Guide to Powerful Presentations\u201d on January 24, 2015.\u00a0 I promise that you will walk away armed with tools and the confidence you need to be a Powerful Presenter.\u00a0 Here are just a couple of tips to implement now, and a taste of the good things to expect at our next event:<\/p>\n

    Open with a bang!\u00a0 That means, never start another presentation with, \u201cGood Morning!\u201d<\/p>\n

    Close memorably!\u00a0 Make your last words so potent that they ring in your listener\u2019s ears.<\/p>\n

    \u00a9Copyright 2014.\u00a0 Kay Fittes.\u00a0 All Rights Reserved.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Did\u00a0you miss the High-Heeled Success\u00ae workshop, \u201cKick Conflict to the Curb\u201d on November 1, 2014?\u00a0 It was a power\u2014packed, career-changing day for all the participants. Here are just a few of the useful strategies you missed on coping with criticism: Weigh It!\u00a0 How you respond should be based on the critic\u2019s motivation.\u00a0 Was the intent<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false,"jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false}}},"categories":[17],"tags":[12,16,14,15,13],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7Qkhe-1h","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=79"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":489,"href":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79\/revisions\/489"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=79"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=79"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.highheeledsuccess.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=79"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}