Each week brings the announcement of another man or even multiple men who have taken advantage of their power and influence to sexually harass someone in the workplace.\u00a0 While there have historically been times when this issue has been in the spotlight, many are hopeful that this will be a watershed moment for women\u2019s claims to be taken seriously and men\u2019s actions to have consequences.<\/p>\n
From Hollywood to the boardroom and beyond, what\u2019s happening is nothing new.\u00a0 These stories about newsworthy men behaving badly represent everyday reality for some women in the workplace.\u00a0 Clients share their struggles regularly during our coaching calls and, particularly during the holiday season, they share concerns about how to navigate the upcoming holiday work party.<\/p>\n
The office party provides an extra layer of networking on the job \u2013 the key words are \u201con the job.\u201d\u00a0 Remember, you are at work, so be aware of your surroundings, watch what you say and how much you drink.\u00a0 While sexual harassment is not the victim\u2019s fault, you have the power to control circumstances that can keep you safe.\u00a0 Unfortunately, the office holiday party can bring out the very worst of sexual harassment and inappropriate behaviors.<\/p>\n
Then there\u2019s the after party, which is like playing golf with your boss and can be the most advantageous networking opportunity, as long as you stay smart and stay safe.\u00a0 Please do not buy into the conference syndrome where you\u2019re offsite, so you rationalize an isolated incident.\u00a0 This is work, not Las Vegas.<\/p>\n
Regardless of whether you\u2019re at the office or elsewhere with co-workers, you cannot control what others do.\u00a0 If you are the victim of sexual harassment, inappropriate advances or worse, you need to feel empowered to speak up right away.<\/p>\n
I always recommend that you speak up and say something to the perpetrator first and keep ongoing documentation of what\u2019s happened.\u00a0 Say something to the individual a maximum of three times before taking the situation to your superior or the human resources department.\u00a0 If you\u2019re not satisfied with action taken at this point, it\u2019s time for you to engage an attorney.<\/p>\n
Whatever you do, do not be silent.\u00a0 I understand there\u2019s a fear-factor with speaking up and speaking out against someone, most likely someone who is higher on the corporate ladder, in the workplace.\u00a0 There\u2019s a reason for the fear \u2013 women have been demoted, fired and passed over for promotions based on what they do or don\u2019t do in these very unseemly circumstances.<\/p>\n
With everything that\u2019s been in the news lately, I\u2019m hopeful that women will continue to feel empowered by the #MeToo movement.\u00a0 So, please, go to your office holiday party, enjoy yourself and network.\u00a0 If something happens there or any other time, speak up, because having no voice is the greatest risk of all.<\/p>\n
In speaking up, you are joining with other women who also refuse to continue to permit such behaviors. \u00a0Further, your voice helps forge a new path for the younger generation of women who will hopefully one day be able to collaborate and work in environments free of fear and harassment.<\/p>\n